How To Select The Best Partner For You
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by: Janice Lipman
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There is no perfect person but there is that perfect one that would match your flaw. There are billions of people in this world and the exploring for someone you want to be with is never easy. There are behaviors that you should look for to make sure your marriage is a success and does not end up in divorce. Choose well because the good and bad results of your decisions and choices will shape your life.
Question #1: How well can you take that person on who he is?
There is no way that you can change the person that he really is. He can in no way be someone and you certainly have no right to change him the way you want to. Accepting both yourself and your partner can certainly help develop your relationship. Accepting is a one basic issue in marriage and if this cannot be accomplished, there is no need to stay.
Question #2: How much do you like each other?
Liking is the basic and the beginning stage between people before they decide to be together. A partner to be should be someone that can be your bestfriend and you should be comfy talking to him just about anything.
Question #3: How compatible are your values?
A well-matched couple should have common interests. It does not mean that you should have all you have is well-matched because that would be very boring. You should have at least 3 compatibilties. Having some differences in your personalities is also recommended in order for you to vary your interests. You should always analyze your interests if they fit or not to avoid further complications in the future.
Question #4: Do you have same aims and goals in life?
Marriage does not mean that you have to give up expanding your occupation. A life and an ambition is also needed for you and your partner. Women are supposed to stay at home and take care of the kids according to some people. But if you have like ambitions and you both give importance to each other’s life, you are open to possibilities that both of you should have work in order to sustain the family’s needs. If the wife wants to work, the husband should not limit her.
Question #5: Is your mantra “Love alone is not enough?”
Let us face it, love alone cannot prolong the needs of the family; the more if there are kids. Love should be there in the relationship in order to have harmony and peaceful living but it should not only be the only thing that a couple thinks of. In order to supply the needs of the family, both the husband and wife should work if the income of only one working is not enough. We know for a fact that money issues are one of the many causes of marriage arguments and issues.
The compatibility of the couple also depends on how they were brought up even if they have dissimilar opinions. Every person has unlike opinions in life, marriage, love and money. It is the way they manage problems where they can conclude that they are well-matched. There is no perfect person and the main purpose of marriage is to find someone that would match your differences. Marriage should not be took as a life sentence, instead, an assurance that you already have someone that you love and will love you in return until you grow old. Marriage is a fragile relationship; therefore you should know the do’s and don’ts on how to keep it strong and divorce-proof. Make your marriage a relationship that everyone will get jealous of. Not perfect, but able to bring out the best in each of you.
About the Author
Jeanne W. Harter is working as an instructor and guidance counselor in the University of Arizona She is currently in her Masters education in Psychology, studying in the same school where he is working. Jeanne has 3 kids and been happily married for more than 20 years. She also the co author of the website how to save marriage. http://www.articleblast.com/Home_and_Family/General/Counseling_On_Saving_Marriage/
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