Bridal Shower Invitations in the 2000s
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I am sure bridal showers served a very noble purpose for a long time. Legend says that Holland was the first to introduce the bridal shower. A young woman and a miller fell in love. The miller was always busy helping others, so never amassed any fortune. When the father of the young woman learned the two wished to marry, he protested by refusing to put up a dowry. The couple decided that love was greater than wealth and still wished to marry. The community that had been so touched by the charity of the miller stepped in to help the couple in the absence of the dowry. They showered the couple with the things they would need to start their new life together. The couple did not, of course, send out bridal shower invitations. They community was compelled to help. Others say the United States was the birthplace of the shower. Perhaps "shower" refers to the Victorian custom of placing gifts in a parasol, so when opened, gifts would shower down on the recipient. No matter the origins, the shower was a way to replace the dowry or trousseau.
What began in the late 1800s, has continued to flourish into the 2000s. The current version of the bridal shower seems to be an American and Canadian custom. And here is where I believe the shower has taken a turn for the materialistic worse. If the purpose of the bridal shower is to compensate for the basic things a bride and groom need to start a home, then most couples today do not need much additional assistance. Yes, in some cases, the bride and groom are fresh out of high school or college and do not have basic things. The people feeding the high end bridal shower frenzy, however, are people who already have the basic necessities. I have received countless bridal shower invitations for friends who are well established and combining two households. I was astounded to hear one bride explain that this was their chance to get some fancy appliances that they would never buy themselves. The bridal shower, in its good hearted roots, would shiver to hear those words.
Do not get me wrong, I like a good party. I think it is completely appropriate to get your friends and loved ones together to help you celebrate your bride or groom status. What you should not expect is for those people to buy you lots of new things, just because you are getting married. Usually, the same people who receive bridal shower invitations are the same people who will receive wedding invitations. We all love to be part of wedding celebrations. Friends and family should not foot the bill for the newlyweds to outfit their new master suite.
Couples should keep some perspective when planning these things. For a couple that does not have much, it is okay to have a traditional shower. For couples who are well established and have everything they need, they should not be greedy and want new replacements for those things courtesy of their guests. I am not being a scrooge; remember that those same guests will be buying the couple a wedding gift. Those future newlyweds should use their collective imagination and offer something different. Give all your friends and family bridal shower invitations that allow them to help you celebrate with fun and frolic. Have a recipe party, where everyone offers their favorite recipe or signature dish and puts it in a fancy cookbook for you to have, for example. The idea of bridal shower invitations inviting your loved ones to have fun and party in your honor in a new and different way will be your gift to them.
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